As we get older, we can line up all our past experiences in our life with money, love, career and anything else we’ve given meaning to and believe certain truths about ourselves.
For some of us, we can look beyond the disappointments and keep doubts, insecurities and negative thinking at bay…and for others of us, we feel incapable of having what we want, our worlds have just been getting smaller and smaller.
In creating a small world, there are benefits! We get to stay stuck, give up, run away, avoid change, find evidence that we shouldn’t risk and blame everything else for our being in this void.
We create a small world where everything seems under our control, except our happiness. We find a certain comfort zone of feeling and we decide that’s enough, wanting more will put us at risk. Our minds will help us to stay right here too.
At the same time, the yearning for more NEVER disappears.
If we ignore it by finding behaviors that numb us out, or distract us from living into our dreams, their efficacy will lose its ability after awhile. Then what will we do?
Being angry at what we feel we’re owed means we could be waiting for years for outside proof that its safe to proceed, “that now is the time.”
Staying stuck is comfortable, it’s familiar. And the only change, which comes from being there is usually a worsening of circumstances. The status quo dips, because as human beings we’re not born to play it safe–because there’s no such thing. What we say ‘no’ to today in terms of risk toward what WE WANT, will haunt us in many tomorrows to come.
Those who keep risking pay attention to that other voice within them, the one who is willing to get up, dust itself off and move toward that dream today. It doesn’t wait for a sign or the moment, it goes for it, because waiting just means more time passes where we could be living large!
The bolder individuals who don’t let their past failures dictate their future, understand discomfort is part of the process.
What do they do?
- Rejection and obstacles are temporary and not meant to be taken personally.
- They stay open and vulnerable when its risky, they know its their true strength.
- Expand their small world for their bigger dreams
- Become more responsible for their lives, not blaming any circumstances outside of them for where they are now.
- Have passion and excitement for their dream.
- They spend time visualizing the goal (not the how), but the results they want–they see it, hear it and feel it! Even when they’re reality doesn’t reflect anything that shows what they want it to be.
Having faith in possibilities takes courage, while faith in failure is easy.
When we claim our value and know we deserve to live OUR dreams, we can face challenges, disappointments and doors closing, because we have the faith to know that our perseverance will pay off. Dropping the weight of the past, gives us freedom to have faith in the opportunity for a kickass life!