What if….

The Law of Attraction is a big topic of conversation.

Thinking, believing and acting within a certain¬†“boundary,”¬†which is supposedly unlimited in abundance will bring you just what you always wanted.

The¬†“boundary,”¬†I describe is trying to limit your thoughts and beliefs to a positive space.

And so, people wrestle those demons to the ground. Those pesky ones, which mentally and emotionally get in the way of Nirvana. Except Nirvana doesn’t show up on time or ever. And the¬†Law of Attraction¬†is bemoaned.

What if, we look at a bigger picture.

What if,¬†we’ve narrowed our focus too much, believing this is the only way we will have lives which satisfy us, with all the goodies we ever dreamed?

In looking at the big picture, one word looms large.


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Bob down the street practiced his daily mantra about believing he is the King of Ireland and surprise, he remained, just Bob down the street.

And what about Joyce, she is several different “holics” numbing her way through life, and she just happened to buy a lotto ticket, which won her the jackpot!

One worked at the Law of Attraction, the other just got lucky, or so it seems.

What works for one person, doesn’t necessarily work for another.

We seem to want a cure-all, one-size fits all formula, but wait! I’m an individual, so the one-size fits all must be¬†unique¬†for me.

There is no cure-all for being human and the lack of control we experience in external factors.

I believe in the¬†“What If Scenario.”¬†I’m always curious as the answers remain unknown to the key; let’s imagine different things are true and say…


If we’re all connected like a finely woven fabric, wouldn’t it make sense that there are many other factors involved in things, people and opportunities coming to us? Wouldn’t there be a timing (not a time on the calendar or the clock) involved as to when something lands in our environment?


What if, no matter what your mindset or belief system is, it has no impact on what comes your way? What if, we believe we have free will, but everything is pre-destined? What if, we decided before we were born the lessons, the experiences and the people we would encounter in this life? And what if what I am saying is true, because if we are all really connected than everything we say and do effects someone, somewhere at some time. Something like the Butterfly Effect.

“What you should do with such information,” if it’s true?

Work on¬†your belief system, your joy, your desires, your light, your¬†dark¬†and everything in between. What is meant by¬†work on, is not really work. It’s simple, it’s to accept all parts of you, as is, to know your desires and find your passion.

When you do that, it stops mattering so much if you attract something or someone in a timely manner or at all, because you are living in your “zone.”

Our belief system can give us anxiety and cause us much angst, if we don’t shine a light on our own truth.

What if, when it is illuminated and we see our frailties, inconsistencies, hairballs, and everything that we have trouble accepting as part of the whole, attracting things to cure it ceases to be on the agenda.

Realistically, our happiness cannot rely on what we attract, it relies on how we feel, see and live with ourselves. The thinking, feeling and acting we worry so much about in what we attract, shouldn’t be our focus.

What if, letting go of what repetitive thoughts and beliefs make our inner world full of suffering and punishment, perhaps, is the only way to our inner peace. Acceptance stops the punishment.

The thinking, feeling and taking action, should come from our joy, our truth, our darkness, our happiness and stand for who we are–wholly.

What if,¬†when we exist in this place of just “being, participating and¬†accepting,” all sorts of doors open up without forcing them.

What if, the more we go into our deepest nature, our most contented space of self-realization and that all is well, it doesn’t matter if anything is predestined or we have free will, we’re living from a place of connection. Connected to life.



The Right Thing to do!

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It’s New Year’s Eve.

Most people are looking forward. Either to their festivities of the evening or the year ahead. How will this year be different than the last in terms of¬†“what you are doing or thinking?”¬†Is anything really going to change with your perception?

Many people say the right thing to do today, is to make promises that you will change what isn’t working in your life. As though, a magical fairy will come along and *poof* the way you have done things and perceive life will now conclude.

If you are not looking within, there is no way a fairy or anything else will provide the runway to launching your life.

The dawning of a new year will have no impact on your ability to hold to these promises. The only commitment you can make, is to yourself outside the calendar of time.

The commitment to live in the NOW.

Instead of looking forward as a destination and the “place you want to be,” recognize most of life is a journey. We can re-invent that journey at any time by changing our perception. And to change that perception it means, a change in what you are thinking followed by what you do.

Let’s break this down a bit.

Living in the NOW means to be “emotionally and physically” present. Not checked out on your current activity or life. it means to fully experience what is happening now. It doesn’t mean you personalize it or make it about you, it means you recognize, see and say “okay, this is now. You don’t even have to understand it, just connect with the moment.

Understanding will always come when we just allow it to, by staying connected and moving through your life.

Living in the future, means there is a better and more improved version of you or your life. It is not today’s pieces and parts, it is the idealized version of what you want. The main issue with living in this manner; we are never in the present moment to recognize our thoughts and feelings, which set up each moment that follows. And if we are NOT here, each moment that follows is the same as the last. We have no clue as to why we do what we do, when we are not fully present today, we miss out on creating a different tomorrow.

What is the right thing to do today?

Commit to yourself and what you want. When you look at what you want, ask yourself how ready you are to receive it? What stands in the way?

The easiest way to recognize what stands in the way, is to ask yourself what has been standing in your way all along, within yourself, which has kept you from getting to what you want?

It is the same today as it was yesterday. And if you can start to recognize where you haven’t wanted to commit to yourself and why, then you can begin to have different moments. The more you commit to you, the more present you will find yourself each day.

Even when you do mundane activities, these are the greatest times to connect with you. Ask yourself how you feel as you perform your tasks, recognize the water on your hands as you wash the dishes, when you make your bed notice how it feels to stretch out and pull the fitted sheet into place. Notice you are fully engaged in the moment when you connect to the doing.

Notice life now.

Today is a moment, you can change the next moment by committing to you and your happiness, success and accepting all of you, just as you are. Be well!



I am an a*sh*le, how about you?

It’s a free world and whether you like it or not, I choose to be an as*h*le!

 How about you?

This world is a little too serious at times. Translated: some people take themselves way too seriously.

When you look for reasons to justify perfection in yourself, be upset, self-righteous, stomp your feet because you didn’t get your way, dig into your own hypocrisy or suffer hurt feelings, come see me. I can provide the recipe to make you feel vindicated.

That’s right. You can blame me. I will be your own private as*h*le.

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