Victoria’s Journey: BEING LOVED; LOVING MY BEAU even when my Personal Behavior is depleting him.

Wealth of LOVING / Mature Relationships were non-existent in any romantic relationship I had occupied in the past. I had not been, nor understood, what I needed in a True Partner.

As a young girl I felt love if I was getting my way.  If I was disappointed or disappointed someone, I would feel and believe I was then not loved.

Years ago, I was married and had not possessed the standard for myself to expect and deserve  “partnership.” I was the breadwinner, carrying the financial load. I became driven for success and was put in the position to over compensate, because my husband was not concerned with providing for our family, he was content to just “get by.” 

During my marriage, I was conditioned to build up resentment and wait until it came to a head, before I spoke my piece and asked for partnership. I thought it was a given when we adults got into a relationship that we were equal partners.   I expected  that we would both just know how to interact, honor one another and be partners,  because we chose to marry.

After my divorce, I still did not experience any relationship that had maturity and a common desire to build together. A commitment was not present to rely or be relied upon as a partner.  My adult relationships all lead to the same place,  frustration and break up. I started to realize ALL things I needed, wanted and deserved had to come from one source first and foremost…MYSELF.  

This realization did not happen overnight.  I know the journey had started several years ago, and is still on-going in the present and into the future.  I did realize along the way, that I had to KNOW what it meant to be TRUE, to be RELIABLE, to hold in my heart and mind the details of what it is to be LOVE and to MIRROR Partnership. 

I took several steps within myself, my environment, and the way I lived daily, acting and then living…AS  IF.  I began to focus on what I knew for ME was LOVE and PARTNERSHIP.

One day, I realized I recognized this concept already; it had lived in someone that I knew when I was a young girl…16.  I had “dated” this young  man for a short time.  I did not realize at the time, that the eyes I looked into, is where I saw the Universe; those arms that held me and gave me a sense of comfort and  “home”; that heart which reached into mine and made mine dance; his mind that challenged my own mind enough to push me forth and played enough to be of comfort; would result in the SOUL that lingered within my realm for over 2 decades.  I remembered and recognized that this person matched me as yin and yang...that at my Worst I was okay, and at my Best I was Better.

I sought this friend out.

We corresponded for almost a year; our first date was the beginning of the last year and a half of our Partnership. We’ve had many unexpected situations thrust upon us; from heart-wrenching to financial hardship. External disruptions that we EACH discuss, examine, work through, triumph and ultimately come together to the center of our home, which is…LOVE.

We both have learned over our own past experiences, that it first comes from ourselves, then we share and partner the rest with one another.

Just the other morning, after he was over-worked, hours past exhaustion, I expected when I woke to see a weary and withdrawn face. I slowly walked  out of our bedroom, into our kitchen and I saw his eyes twinkling; his smile sparkling at me.  After the past year and a half of the circumstances we have dealt with, another couple may have chosen to run in opposite directions.  I woke to see his soul dancing and the 16 year old boy I fell for 26 years ago.  I saw WHY I had  FALLEN for this young man so long ago.

It is only NOW in my own maturation, in my own growth and honesty with myself, that I could truly see what this MAN brings to me and that it is my responsibility to honor.

When things get tough, I remember that I had traveled through my past experiences to be here.  This is exactly what I sought for myself.  It is what each exercise and mindful practice brought me…I  manifested being with this man.  I pictured him, I recalled his qualities-good and not so good, I remembered WHO I was able to be when I was with him.  Now that he is in my life; we share our lives; each day is a testimony to WEALTH of MIND, SOUL and HEART.

This is one of my most valuable investments my life experience has allowed  me…THANK YOU UNIVERSE for bringing me to the maturity and the knowing HOW to BE and to ASK for PARTNERSHIP!

Victoria on Asking for and Receiving Wealth


My wanting to achieve wealth in all areas of my life, NOT just financial; came the realization that I had to open up to things beyond what I know and do.

What I know and do so far have me where I am right now.

An opportunity came around to help an old friend market a “word of mouth, grass roots hair product”.  The product is sold on-line, and has just started radio advertising to correlate with the availability of the product at the California Summer Fairs.

She asked for friends and family to help promote and sell the product at the LA FAIR.

My thought (old mentality): my  step-daughters can use the extra money and have a great opportunity to create networking connections.  I went with them to the interview to ensure everything was applicable to their ability & time schedule.

The UNIVERSE brought ME the OPPORTUNITY, as well.

At the interview for the girls, I was asked to help with the one-month sales blitz at the fair.  I was asked to be Supervisor and just like that,  the opportunity to make some extra money appeared!

OK Universe, I see you winking at me.

I started using the product a few weeks before starting to sell it at the fair.  It turned out to be what I had been searching for on my own in hair care. I had previously spent an in excess money & time trying to find the right product for my hair.

Here I was being provided the product so I could be part of the product family.  I have learned, as I established my business, this is A WAY OF LIFE.  This company lives it as a way of life—they live abundantly. And they have shared with others.

It is an enrichment of my daily life that has become a way to earn a living.  A mirror, to how I see, project and do my “business.”

Last night I worked the evening shift at the fair.  I felt good about the number of transactions and money that my step-daughter and I produced for the company.

Most importantly the stories and conversations, we shared and heard from those customers wanting to enrich themselves with this product, were incredible! Many were return customers, who were so happy to see us and the product! They spent time with us, sharing their testimonials.  What  fun!

I woke up exhausted from working two jobs this month. BUT I am living, FULL, ENRICHED & FEELING ACCOMPLISHED as I AM THE WAY OF LIFE I PROFESS & YES RICHER/WEALTHIER FOR IT.  

As I read through morning emails I received one from the Manager of the product  company. The email indicated what a GREAT JOB we were doing.  The company will be rewarding EACH shift group a “kitty/pool” for reaching company goals.  Each shift that reaches the company goals will get money in the “kitty/pool”. At the end of the month ALL monies added to the pool are divided by the people in that  shift.

WOW-extra money for doing what we are doing.

GREAT! The email also stated, because some of us are driving long distances our paycheck would have some EXTRA money added to it, to help ease the gas crunch.

It’s the little things that we do that pay dividends to our efforts.

So, today here is to the Little Efforts that have brought dividends for this work. This is a stepping stone to manifesting the larger dividends…which will be revealed in my own work with my own business.  I will continue to apply these smaller practices on a larger scope and see the results at the end of this year’s journey.

I thank you for Winking at me today, Universe.

Victoria’s 1st week of believing…

Victoria checked in with an update on how believing things will come to fruition for her was coming along. In her words:

“I really don’t know HOW to convey what I am doing in words. I have always just done this exercise in my life and pushed my way through. This is a different process.

 After declaring my manifestation list of wealth, I realized my own son had taken a good amount of money out of my personal checking account; without asking, without my knowledge, without my approval. 

For the last several years I have provided my sons with all the things I could, because I finally was able to afford things.

I wanted to be able to show them With Good Hard Work and Effort-you should be able to reap some rewards.  I wasn’t aware they had not fully grasped the lesson of Hard Work & Effort , first and  foremost.  Instead,  they saw and received rewards developing a sense of entitlement.  

Time passed so quickly and now they are young men.  

The economic environment of our nation has hit me hard, just as many others have been financially side-lined in our society.  I have had to cut back on the extras and even on some necessities. Now I am  looking at all aspects to grow my wealth, not just monetarily, but all aspects of my life, so that I may know True Wealth…Wealth of Life.  

In the case with my sons,  I had not taken the time to explain to them that they needed to be more responsible in their own decision making when it comes to finances.  

I did tell things have gotten tougher financially, and that we would not be able to have all the luxuries we once had.  Although, I forgot to get them involved in the cutbacks.  I forgot to teach them the responsibility and accountability to not only themselves, but to me and our household…to be mindful. 

Since this incident last week,  I have sat with my son and explained the function of a “job”.   The process of holding a job, in which a person works (hopefully work hard and with effort) and for that work the person is “paid/rewarded” with a  return-financially/success/status, etc… 

I have realized that manifesting my own intentions is not just my doing…if I am not clear on what I do, how I do and what I stand for, it allows for others to stop, deplete or infringe upon me in ways that impede my life.  And then no matter what my true intention is with the Universe, I would not have been successful. I have taken responsibility for my dance with the universe and will not become a victim.”     

I love what Victoria had to say about her experience this past week. Believing, wanting and working toward what we say we want in our lives will definitely bring to the surface any part of us that is not in alignment with these intentions. It is all a process and each moment we have an opportunity to make a choice in how we want to travel this journey.

Thank you for sharing Victoria. And thank you for your words this morning in helping me to get through my own thoughts which hold me back and make me question the ability I have to make my own dreams come true. Love to you and to all!!!

Believing update at 355 days

This week has been one of more mental or emotional changes, rather than actual “tangible” results to support what I believe will happen for me in the next 354 days.

My friend Victoria will be getting back to me on her progress this week too and I will post again.

Small challenges abound, meant to go through, accept and still find the belief that what I asked for and believed in, will come to be very soon.

I’m a very private person; I keep my personal life to myself, so it’s very odd to share any of this in a public domain. My hope is people may relate and know others share the struggles and triumphs of being human.

I am very happy to say; I am watching my coaching and readings grow. I have found my abilities to provide a fruitful and solid reading have grown immensely over the years. As I trust, it grows. My coaching has evolved in the same manner. I love my clients and watching them blossom in their own gardens of life.

I work for kindest man in my marketing job. He’s awesome; he really cares about others and pragmatically he has been successful in past endeavors. This week was a bit challenging for us all. Our product has a delay of 30 days added onto the launch; it is unfortunate, because we are trying to get it to the marketplace a.s.a.p. We are a small start-up, so every day counts! On another note we have other business deals, which show promise, including a possible advertising partnership with a global company. We are off to a conference tomorrow, which should bring us a bit of recognition and allows us to continue developing relationships with other resources.

I am blessed to work with great people in both areas that I work; we have a lot of fun!

I’ve decided for myself that not only is “believing” where it’s at, love is part of this project. I am all about LOVE. On my journey, LOVE has been a concept, an idea and finally a reality in terms of actually feeling what it truly means. After all, I believe its why were all here, to learn and experience self-love, intimate love, love of friends and family, love of one another because we exist.

In my belief that I will be married within the year, it stems from my knowing that simple true love is the only thing worth having; the material is only a concern in having basic needs met, some comfort and of course, how it affects a person in how they feel about themselves. Many people to feel successful need to have a certain amount of prosperity under their belt, I understand. It can get in the way of someone’s ability to love themselves when they identify with money as a characteristic of success as a human being. I’ve had money and been without it—for me it has little to do with how I define myself these days.

My recent relationship was with someone, who to me was beautiful in many ways, just not ready for what I need for myself in a relationship. And for the first time in my life it was time for me to consider my own feelings first, not just what someone else wanted. I’m being mindful and keeping this brief. What we had was amazing; beyond anything I could imagine in terms of connection- he was my best friend. I miss him everyday. Synchronicity ran rampant and yes, still the signs show up everyday and that is fascinating. And to have someone see you for who you truly are and accept you, likewise of course, both of those were gifts among many others we had with each other. And so, interestingly enough, because I’ve learned to love me, I’m okay knowing IT IS ALL possible. What I want exists; I’m ready for it!  Whatever is meant to be, will be….  oughta be an interesting ride!

It has been a challenging (ripping the middle seam on my very old crepe-paper-like shorts at the gym today was a highlight-haha)and sweet week for me in terms of holding true to the belief of what I want coming to fruition in a satisfactory manner—there is not settling in any area of my life, so I have to stay connected to the Universal truth and my belief in a higher, wiser loving power.

Another opportunity exists now to love all that is and bring it BIG time to all individuals who’s path I cross…. we all want to be loved, so let the loving begin! Smiling at every stranger’s face I see….sometimes I get lost in my own world, so my goal is to be more mindful and pay attention wherever I am.

Life has its disappointments; today my youngest daughter had to weather a disappointment that she feels she will have trouble moving on from now. And I explained there is always a gift in disappointment (she just rolls her eyes to that one) and things will turn out better than she believes in the days that follow. I subscribe to that belief in my own life, we never know what awaits us each day and that is the beauty of life. I let go and let it flow. I can’t force, manipulate or pretend. And now in all areas I believe I’m going to receive. Yes!!

A year of believing or the next 361 days

Alrighty folks! Here’s the post. The items stated below will manifest this year; the “how” will be covered in the next post.

This evening we are at 361 days.

I am so excited! My friend Victoria is joining me on this adventure, she is someone who has created quite a wonderful existence for herself.

Two reasons I am doing this now:

The first one: I truly believe without a doubt that these things will happen; I am not in control of the timing, though I am very confident that little seedlings will sprout at the very least in the direction of confirmation and materialization.

The second reason is there are a few items on my list that I used to deem impossible for me to actually attain in this lifetime. I want to share that I can do it, and thus, so can every soul walking this planet. Part of my mantra: there is absolutely no reason to settle for anything less in any way. Life is short, go for the gusto!

Victoria has a similar intention for her it is“Believing In Myself & Making The Mind’s Impossible, Be The Body & Soul’s POSSIBLE!” Manifesting life to the next level, upward!

What both Victoria and I share is that believing is truly a deep sense of knowing and creation happening with easeNo forcing, shoving or jamming pieces of a jigsaw puzzle together. It is the time. As we go about our daily business, we know all may be easily accomplished by participating and taking action in the direction of our goals. It’s connnttttagggioouss!

And to think, I spent SO many years complicating my life, and just as many years simplifying it. “Ease” is a word I remind myself of often, to be in the flow and live from a deep sense of awareness and well being; yup, I’m eas-e (haha!).

I’m aware and respect each individual has a different belief system in terms of how “things come to be”; whether it is through believing, knowing, having faith, prayers, setting intentions or whatever is applicable to each person.

Victoria and I do know what we believe for ourselves isn’t based on wishful thinking, “need”, filling holes, or any other “have to or my life is over philosophy”. We’re both quite happy with our lives right now and if it were to remain as it is in this moment, we’d be okay.

Victoria is the owner of Que Linda Boutique and Que Linda Tu in La Crescenta, CA. She is partners with her Mom who owns Body N’ Soul Studio. Que Linda in English means: “How Beautiful”.  Below, I am providing a succinct description of each item, to be elaborated on in future posts. Here is Victoria’s list:


a) Monetarily -each of my 4 bank accounts with a balance of $75k+, next year $100k+,  following year 150K+ each.

b) Happiness-wealthy in my daily happiness. My heart & face to have the same smile!

c) Love-abundance of self love, abundance of authentic love from family, friends  & clients/public.

d) Health-my health with enough clean wealthy body, functioning & continued good  maintenance.

e) Branding-Que Linda being abundant in its public recognition. A destination place, a sought out brand & state of being… being abundant & wealthy with good, positive & authentic customers/clients who are willing to do good, positive & spiritual WORK.

f) Soul-Workers-abundant with Soul Workers who set the tone in following & exemplifying what Que Linda is…as a way of Life.

What I believe for me in the next 361 days is everything below comes from love, joy and prosperity:

a) I will be presented with a sound opportunity to publish a book by a recognized publisher.

b) Continuing to grow the love of myself and my life; meeting new people and having new grand, enlightening experiences through all kinds of effortless and joyful travel, near and far.

c) I will be blissfully married to my best friend. (I started to write engaged, it didn’t feel right—this felt right and has been feeling right for quite awhile. And trust me, I couldn’t say this for years without gasping for air or running)

d) My coaching practice will continue to flourish and double in size, only bringing people who I can genuinely help.

e) My other lovely professional joy is at an entertainment company; our first product launches this year, it will be VERY successful beyond all expectations, for everyone employed there and leading to more success with our future products.

f) I believe I will sustain my reputation as authentically “me” in reflecting who I am through any means of personal and public awareness.

Whew…that was AWESOME!! I am excited to have these in the open. I am usually a very private person, so this is a step out of the “comfort” zone and into the unknown!!! Through the rapids, the calm and all that life is to experiences that will be unforgettable, dynamic and life-affirming!! Hope you enjoy the ride!!

Believing, a year of intention

I have always found it fascinating to watch people commit to something. I mean really commit. Stick with it through thick and thin, up and down, sideways and everything in between. I like the idea of a year, 365 days. The thing is what have I been committed to in terms of my own growth? “Believing”, believing in myself, life and that the impossible, is possible. The only one standing in the way of anything in this world is oneself. Whether it is what obstacles you created yesterday to trip over today or ones you are creating right now, because you don’t believe you deserve better.

We are ALWAYS the ones holding our own key to the door in front of us or unlocking the self-imposed prison we have come to call home. I have lived in my own prison at times. Life experiences happening over and over would create a matching belief to some basic core belief (a misconception, really) I had about myself. I would go into a situation with an unconscious belief about myself and make sure that I fulfilled it over and over. And now?

I believe that we create our own reality. I believe, because I have witnessed it with myself and others. And as I have watched my own life blossom and grow, it got me to thinking…its time for the BIG stuff! I have grown into believing I deserve an even more juicy existence and I can feel all of MY dreams in me coming alive. I am ready to receive with open arms!!. I truly believe I can have it all. Having it all is subjective of course, for me it is to add to the fulfillment I already feel on the inside and now to raise the temperature about about 1000 degrees and watch it get hot! hot! hot! Woohoo!!!!

Who wants to join me? If you wanna accompany me on the journey of believing in the next 365 days…email or leave a comment. I already have a compadre who is going to join me on the journey. She is a woman who has an intention(s) and is awesome at co-creating her universe!!

I will post later on this evening, what I believe and know will happen for me this year and what my friend is believing will happen for her this year too!!! And then anyone else who really wants to rock n’ roll, make the commitment and have a lot of fun being the captain of his or her ship, please contact me…. peace, love and Bobby Sherman.

An excerpt from a book I read, got me thinking

I found this excerpt interesting; when I read it—I did EXACTLY what the author expected. Although, I wonder if it is truly my reality or not, at least in how he explains. Or if the reality is when someone tells us NOT to do something, it illicits a rebellious response of “well, why not?” and then we barrel through and do it anyway!! Please let me know your thoughts after you read it.

“Don’t, Not and No”

Don’t think of the statue of liberty in New York. I know that you just did! Your unconcious and conscious mind automatically filter out the words don’t, not and no. When you use these words you are actually internalizing in your mind the exact thing you are being told not to. For example, if I said “Do not think of a snowstorm,” I guarantee you would start thinking of a snowstorm immediately. Even though the instruction was not to do something, your unconcious mind edited out that part of the instruction. There are other common expressions that give more attention and energy to what you DON’T want. Have you heard yourself use any of these statements?

Don’t get madI’m not blaming

Don’t hesitate to call me

Don’t be fooled

Don’t worry

I don’t want this to hurt

Don’t litter

Don’t smoke

I’m not judging

Don’t panicNo rush, no worry

Don’t look now

Don’t run with scissors

Don’t forget

I don’t want my clients to cancel

Don’t be late

Don’t slam the door

Don’t eat dessert

The book goes on to say that attraction works the same way your mind does: it hears what you DON’T want. It means you are giving attention and energy to what you don’t want. And so what can you do? What is a new choice when you realize you are unconciously falling into a pattern of “don’t, no or not”…..ask yourself, “So, what do I want?”

I do believe when you ask yourself what you want, you now give yourself freedom and choice where you may not have been aware of it in the moment of anger, frustration or even slight irritation. I know when I ask this question of myself, I feel better immediately–lighter, happier and more open. I’d be curious to hear feedback on any or all of this post.

Matching Words

As I addressed in my last post, the removing of self-sabotaging action and having an awareness of your core beliefs are pretty much the key to watching your life manifest abundantly and to living the life you dreamed for yourself. (And in the future, I will address belief systems, patterns, thoughts, self-love and honoring yourself in upcoming posts.)

Many times when we put our manifestations to paper, whether it is in the form of present tense writing, “I now have the love relationship with my best friend” to ” My bank account is now abundantly overflowing with money” or finding pictures in magazines of exactly what we want and putting it on a visionboard, only to find nothing happens. Isn’t there supposed to be a matching correspondence in reality of the things I say I want for myself? Yes, and there is, many times when we say these things we are not “feeling” that way, yet. No matter how hard you try, you aren’t truly believing you can have what you want on some level. It’s hard to conjure up the feeling into a belief when all proof in the past has shown you the opposite. And the longer you have been on this planet with self-defeating patterns, which create the questions, Why me? Or Why does this always happen to me?, it seems downright impossible to believe anything will truly change.

What can you do?

The great thing about being alive is this is a journey. We are all on a path never really arriving at a destination; travelers who if we are paying attention get to learn and grow throughout this trip. Growth is a process and so is dropping old beliefs that don’t work as adults. We created some of our beliefs as strategies to survive our childhood emotionally, to make ourselves invulnerable–no one likes pain (which is another topic I will get to in another post). What worked at “5 years old” doesn’t work at 35.  And so, at any point in time you can make a decision to develop self-awareness….this leads to authenticity. When you authentically know yourself and aren’t listening to the stories of “who you should be”, unreachable expectations, and all the drama that makes up a “story” you believe and tell about yourself… get the gift of self-love.

So again, how do you manifest what you truly want into your life while you are getting through the layers of belief which hold you back?

In the Law of Attraction it is really about  “what you feel” more than the words you use that creates a magnetic pull toward creating your reality. Think about it, in the past when you are laser-beam focused on a tangible goal, one you believe you can have–something you feel you deserve, you can see it, smell it, taste it–it is that real to you! I am talking about something like landing a major client; starting a business; buying your first house, and knowing there is nothing that will stand in your way! Notice how you “energetically” feel yourself moving toward your goal.There is a feeling of “having” it, almost a magnetic force you feel in doing what you can to get to your goal. Now take that feeling and put it toward something you want very badly, but have given up on…..what happens? Do you feel like you have it or have you lost some of the energy, the momentum and have doubts started creeping in? Ugh! Right? It’s not about defeat, its about boogeying on down the road! Soooooo…. what do you do in the here and now to get some mojo going?  Try this….

Grab a clean sheet of paper and pen, take a few minutes to think of what you really want. And then be ready to put pen to paper. Write down your manifestations. But, before every manifestation use the words “I am in the process of”….as in, “I am in the process of having a loving relationship.” Like one of my all-time favorites: “I am in the process of letting go of suffering now.” “I am in the process of buying my dream house”, etc… you see in reality, the minute you think about something you want, the process has begun, right? So…we are always in the process of going somewhere.

And….here are some other ways to start a manifestation, which keep you in the present moment and create a true match “energetically” to “the words” you are stating in describing what you want. Its that simple, match where you are, not where you believe it to be impossible…or it just stays impossible. Try starting a manifestation with any of the following:

“It excites me to see myself ____________”

“I am committed to______________”

“When I think of_________I am excited”

“I am leaving behind______________”

“I am actively_______”

“I am believing_______”

“I’ve decided___________”

“I love seeing myself___________”

“I love what______”

“I love how_______”

“It’s exciting to believe______”

If you would like more, please email me at I’d be happy to share more manifestation starters with you!

A whole lot can happen in the next 30 seconds

There have been a lot of books, websites, workshops, etc… dedicated to the Law of Attraction. Apparently, there seems to be a correlation between what is inside of you creating your universe that you inhabit, at this time. Indeed it looks like what we believe to a certain degree comes true, whether it is a negative or a positive. I had a teacher at one point who said if you have “a crappy inner world, how can you expect the outer world to smell like roses”. A bit crass, yes, but you get the point.

Many times you can’t predict what things will look like as they manifest in your life and only upon looking back can you actually see that what you were focused on had indeed come to you. Maybe it doesn’t look how you imagined or perhaps you were unaware that some events that happened were in answer to situations you may have been obsessing about–seems there is the Law of Cause and Effect here too. No matter what you want to call it, there is a connection from our thoughts to our reality. As an advocate in my coaching practice of being the Captain of your own Ship, I wanted to give a little input on what seems to be the tipping point.

What you believe you create.

Unfortunately for many people, they are unaware of these beliefs it is almost unconscious; like eating with a fork and a knife or brushing your teeth–you don’t think about it, you just do it. Many of these beliefs were formed when we were children. Imagine yourself as a sponge–absorbing your environment, how you were treated, what was said to you and the “you” that was formed from other people’s perceptions of you. Everywhere you went it seemed that you became what the world thought or expected you to be when you were a child. Or maybe you decided you weren’t what others believed–you rebelled and wanted to show everyone you were perfect if you were bad, smart if called stupid, etc… I would also like to clarify , that if you had any clue as a child that other people’s opinions of you were NO WAY to build an identity at all, you probably would be living a very different life right now. Instead, many of us went from childhood into adulthood and kept recreating what we “believed” to be true for us; it is reflected in our relationships, successes, failures and inertia. And therefore, until we can clearly see the belief that keeps us recreating the same ride on the merry-go-round, we keep attracting the same thing. The same patterns, the same thoughts, the same kind of people, jobs, situations, etc… it all keeps proving our belief about ourselves to be true. And we ARE THE ONES RESPONSIBLE, we are looking for what we didn’t get as a child, even if we grew up in a very functional environment–there were events that we took personally in a way that may stand in the way of self-love or wholeness.

So you see, when people tell you to manifest what you want through positive affirmations, it discounts the relationship between the internal and external, it truly is a bit more complex. It would be great to just rattle off positive affirmations and “poof” there is that magical relationship you have been waiting for or that fantastic job, alas it seems to take a bit more energy than wishful thinking. There is also the school of thought that if you  “act as if you already possess what it is you desire” then you can guarantee it will happen for you. And by the way, acting as if you have something you have never had is quite a feat for most of us, since we have no idea what that would feel like. Especially, if you are dragging along loads of luggage based on your antiquated belief of yourself, then it is gonna take awhile to see any results from those affirmations. The good news is that once you start lightening the load, and letting go of the beliefs that hold you back, things will change! As you connect the dots on these lifelong patterns you will see they can be dropped by taking different actions in the present; by making different choices, automatically you will start to see the inner and outer worlds match a bit better. In fact, it’ll become exciting very quickly, because what you want in your life can happen in the next 30 seconds! Just create a little space. Everyone can have the life they dream about–it is possible. And I know firsthand, you can make the impossible, possible.  I will continue this topic in my next post, it will include tips on how the Law of Attraction can really work to support you as the Captain of your own Ship.