You can have it all! Just bring your horse to water

Seems to be a slight epidemic as we age, we give up something key to our sustenance, passion and breathing. Can you guess what it is?  Our dreams.

Even if you have attained some version of a dream you once had, what next…what about those dreams in your heart that are in direct opposition to your life right now?

Nothing truly changes in our ability to achieve a dream, but our perspective. It is not because life won‚Äôt give you what you want; its all in how ‚Äúyou see it‚ÄĚ. ¬†If you believe life is unfair and you were handed a cruel twist of fate, then you will keep creating that image.

When a perspective on life has narrowed, a finger points toward all of your failures and/or successes.

When we carry the perspective of waiting for circumstances to change or become ideal, we are passively feeding ourselves excuses as to a future that we NEVER plan to create.

 Live it now. Be it now. Have it now.

Your magic formula for success may be just as detrimental to “you” as failure. Especially, if it keeps you locked in a “certain” way of doing things.

Our magnificent Universe is ALL about change my friend, its about diving-in, going with the flow and coming up for air into a new way of being, learning  and doing; a breaststroke into waters you may not have traveled yet.

We like to keep our attention on the known vs. the unknown. New unexplored opportunities, scare us.  

We may have a belief about ourselves, what we can do, our capabilities and where we seem to always fail or succeed.

Any unchangeable, locked up vision on how to live without varying from how you did it in the past will keep you in an insidious pattern, one that you may not even be aware operates underneath your perception.

When it comes to “failing”, there may be a belief that it is not what WE did, but the curve balls that life keeps on throwing us over the years.

Sometimes we don’t come out of the dugout and stay committed to ourselves through the strikeouts; we lose the belief that “this time” we can hit the ball, and maybe score a homerun in the bottom of the 9th! Sometimes, we call it a game, a season or a life and walk off the field never to return. Leaving our field of dreams behind.

You may have convinced yourself and created the perception that you will not be able to hit that curve ball, so instead you watch others play and succeed. You then take the virtual baseball bat and hit yourself over the head numerous times in self-flagellation over how you failed; beating oneself up never accomplishes happiness. All it does is creates a story that you can tell yourself to make sure you SAFELY never get up to bat again and in turn, you share this sad story with others.

As we get older, we become a collection of stories. It seems that what we thought  was possible, becomes impossible. After all, life keeps proving it over and over. 

We develop habits, ways of coping, living and  breathing through our experiences.

Our experiences have become our story.  We take ownership. Whew!!! What a relief, it keeps us from having to get back in the saddle and try again!

We personalize our circumstances as though they happen to us, not “through us!”

We don’t see ourselves making choices leading to the same outcome. We don’t see how we become immobilized through our thoughts based on these experiences. We miss our own boat.¬†¬†

There is absolutely no reason to not accomplish your dreams.

Life is hard?  Really? You create that reality.

Sure, I agree…life has its peaks and valleys.

Using my favorite analogy of the river; we have NO control over the conditions of the river; the low hanging branches, rocks, rapids and brown bears fishing mid-stream. So…what does it hurt to lean back, steer your boat with your feet “through” adversity, and the perceptions you HOLD ONTO which are keeping you from success? ¬†Let go….and enjoy the ride!

What else are you gonna do?

You could decide the river of REALLY LIVING is too dangerous to ride; you might get swept up in its current and jump out of your boat clamoring to the nearest dry land. And there you stay, settling for the safety of some dry shore; where you dock your boat, catch your breath and decide to set up a permanent camp. Hoping to avoid the unknown, your dreams and living full out!

Dreams are lost when you don’t get back in your boat and go with the flow.

It is our thoughts which incapacitate us. Its our own thinking. It stops us from participating willingly in the adventure of life.

We give up, give in and walk with our boat on our back, it’s easier right? You can handle the weight of the boat, rather than letting go and allowing it to be your ride to the unknown.

As you know even if you walk with YOUR boat; you grow tired, angry and thinking life is just this way, it sucks!

And you still are confronted with challenges, especially this one: you can never make your life small enough to control everything!  

Giving up your dreams does not mean safety and no problems. It is in fact the opposite, it seems life is frothing at the mouth with problems, when you play small. When you stay in the boat and steer toward your dreams, miracles happen and problems are not so overwhelming…you find a way to¬†maneuver¬†through them and become even more committed to the happiness in your heart!

Life doesn’t take kindly to allowing us to remain victims of circumstance. It comes around pulling you out of that hole you dug as you dragged your heavy boat “behind” you, filled with¬† disappointment, sorrow, failure and loneliness. It has a way of presenting opportunities for your dreams, again and again. Will you ignore it or jump back in the river?

Some resist getting back in the river still, they numb themselves.

They choose to rely on “coping” rather than¬† “living”.

Many come to think nothing goes their way, they look for safety, escape and a feeling that its all okay… which it never is when life remains un-lived.

Will you keep choosing to stay on the banks of your life?  What do you have to lose?

Going through life on auto-pilot so nothing really hurts you and staying with a routine and its safety is not the key. There is always a sense of unrest within us. Sure you may have some comfort, but really….what you are stifling within yourself is your very “life”.

We have an OLD belief system of a young child; it tells our¬†subconscious¬†endearing thoughts such as: ¬†“See you really shouldn’t run through the sprinklers or play in the mud in your school clothes, you are bad”, ” My parents both work leaving me with a sitter til late at night, what am¬† I gonna do, no one will take me to get my items for the school project due¬† tomorrow”, “My Dad left, and when I see him he pays no attention to me, must mean I am unlovable”, ¬†“I’m mean, my mom said so”, and ” I’m ugly and dumb, the kids at school¬† always tease me”, etc…

In our subconscious minds, these thoughts have stuck with us about ourselves¬† creating a belief, whether its true or not. ¬†And we are NOT even aware of it most of the time. We all were Spongebob Squarepants as kids…soaking up our environment and the people in it!

When you are young,¬†you don’t notice these beliefs so much, because you¬† haven’t had the opportunities to “create” TOO many events in your life to match those beliefs. It takes time to keep re-creating OUR stories, which is why we take our boat out of the river at some point and stop the flow.

Wanna get back in that boat? I can give you the possibilities of how; the tools to change a perception and take different action which changes the outcome…..so stay in your boat and come on downstream with me.

A year of believing or the next 361 days

Alrighty folks! Here’s the post. The items stated below will manifest this year; the “how” will be covered in the next post.

This evening we are at 361 days.

I am so excited! My friend Victoria is joining me on this adventure, she is someone who has created quite a wonderful existence for herself.

Two reasons I am doing this now:

The first one: I truly believe without a doubt that these things will happen; I am not in control of the timing, though I am very confident that little seedlings will sprout at the very least in the direction of confirmation and materialization.

The second reason is there are a few items on my list that I used to deem impossible for me to actually attain in this lifetime. I want to share that I can do it, and thus, so can every soul walking this planet. Part of my mantra: there is absolutely no reason to settle for anything less in any way. Life is short, go for the gusto!

Victoria has a similar intention for her it is“Believing In Myself & Making The Mind’s Impossible, Be The Body & Soul’s POSSIBLE!” Manifesting life to the next level, upward!

What both Victoria and I share is that¬†believing is truly a deep sense of knowing and creation happening with ease.¬†No forcing, shoving or jamming pieces of a jigsaw puzzle together.¬†It is the time. As we go about our daily business, we¬†know¬†all may be easily accomplished by participating and¬†taking action in the direction of our goals. It’s connnttttagggioouss!

And to think, I spent SO many years complicating my life, and just as many years simplifying it. “Ease” is a word I remind myself of often, to be in the flow and live from a deep sense of awareness and well being; yup, I’m eas-e (haha!).

I’m aware and respect each individual has a different belief system in terms of how “things come to be”; whether it is through believing, knowing, having faith, prayers, setting intentions or whatever is applicable to each person.

Victoria and I do know what we¬†believe¬†for ourselves isn’t based on wishful thinking, “need”, filling holes, or any other “have to or my life is over philosophy”. We’re both quite happy with our lives right now and if it were to remain as it is in this moment, we’d be okay.

Victoria is the owner of Que Linda Boutique and Que Linda Tu in La Crescenta, CA. She is partners with her Mom who owns Body N’ Soul Studio. Que Linda in English means: “How Beautiful”. ¬†Below, I am providing a succinct description of each item, to be elaborated on in future posts. Here is Victoria’s list:

WEALTH:

a) Monetarily -each of my 4 bank accounts with a balance of $75k+, next year $100k+,  following year 150K+ each.

b) Happiness-wealthy in my daily happiness. My heart & face to have the same smile!

c) Love-abundance of self love, abundance of authentic love from family, friends  & clients/public.

d) Health-my health with enough clean wealthy body, functioning & continued good  maintenance.

e) Branding-Que Linda being abundant in its public recognition. A destination place, a sought out brand & state of being… being abundant & wealthy with good, positive & authentic customers/clients who are willing to do good, positive & spiritual WORK.

f) Soul-Workers-abundant with Soul Workers who set the tone in following & exemplifying what Que Linda is…as a way of Life.

What I believe for me in the next 361 days is everything below comes from love, joy and prosperity:

a) I will be presented with a sound opportunity to publish a book by a recognized publisher.

b) Continuing to grow the love of myself and my life; meeting new people and having new grand, enlightening experiences through all kinds of effortless and joyful travel, near and far.

c) I will be blissfully married to my best friend. (I started to write engaged, it didn’t feel right—this felt right and has been feeling right for quite awhile. And trust me, I couldn’t say this for years without gasping for air or running)

d) My coaching practice will continue to flourish and double in size, only bringing people who I can genuinely help.

e) My other lovely professional joy is at an entertainment company; our first product launches this year, it will be VERY successful beyond all expectations, for everyone employed there and leading to more success with our future products.

f) I believe I will sustain my reputation as¬†authentically¬†“me” in reflecting who I am through any means of personal and public awareness.

Whew…that was AWESOME!! I am excited to have these in the open. I am usually a very private person, so this is a step out of the “comfort” zone and into the unknown!!! Through the rapids, the calm and all that life is to experiences that will be unforgettable, dynamic and life-affirming!! Hope you enjoy the ride!!

Commitment

I love this quote that I found floating somewhere out on the web anonymously. “Commitment unlocks the doors of imagination, allows vision and gives us the right stuff to turn our dreams into a reality.” Commitment equals success. Truly committing to anything is one of the most profound things we can do as human beings. Whether it is commitment to a goal, person, job, a date, being of service, et al. When we put both feet fully in, we are trusting ourselves and the Universe. We are saying, “I am in”. I am playing full out in life.

If we are really committing, it should be a little scary. There should be a bit of a gulp we feel when we say yes to a new relationship when we are fully committing ourselves to being “in” the relationship. Not playing at it, one foot out and the other one dangling by a toe, nope that brings us no return on the investment. Going all in, means…. I trust myself to be able to handle any and all of my emotions that happen created by my reactions to the other person in the relationship. I can handle engulfment, it will not grab me into its undertow and drown me. It says, I can handle pain, because pain is an inevitable part of life. It says, I can stay through all the times, good and bad, because I am emotionally present. Knowing that the true strength is the vulnerability to realize our journey is not one of self protection or saving face, but one that is an honest expression of who we truly are! Commitment is having no regrets: No shouldas, couldas, wouldas…no sir, its knowing you did everything you could in that opportunity and you went the distance. Its what makes life an unending bonanza of amazing moments.

Both feet in means I am committed to whatever happens and staying authentic to who I am, knowing that true happiness only comes from being there 100% in the moment. No ducking out. No denial, hiding, distractions or telling yourself the grass is greener or you don’t have to put up with something trivial, because you are not getting your way. Nope that ain’t being committed. Being committed is to stay flexible in your approach, revise as needed and participate fully.

Go big, reap the benefits, expand yourself and commit to the biggest dream you have ever imagined. Stay committed to seeing it through and watch your life unfold.