Though,I don’t keep track of Hollywood stars or movies.
I go to the movies once in a great while.
The last one I saw was Horrible Bosses with my kids in 2011 and before that Bridesmaids and even before that, it was The King’s Speech–love that movie!
I love to laugh at stupid, slapstick stuff til my stomach hurts.
There is a point, I’m getting to here.
I’ve no interest in award shows or anything of the ilk, unless I personally know someone receiving an award, then I’m all about it–I’m your biggest cheerleader!
So, the Oscars and the hoopla surrounding it, got me thinking a bit about the influence on our culture from celebrity.
I was invited to attend the Oscars one year and I thought it sounded like the most boring thing I could endeavor to do. (Yes, I’m in the minority, but those 3 hours of my life could be better spent watching grass grow)
I personally don’t have a fascination with other people’s lives, especially ones I will never meet.
I’m also one of those people completely turned off by the pandering to celebrity of any type in our country. They’re just people too.
I understand it’s human nature to idolize, place others above us or believe them to be far more fascinating than we see ourselves. Our history going back “more than the centuries I can count,” have shown our penchant for adoration we give to others.
The reasons we fall into fascination of love or hate of an individual who is personally unknown to us or perhaps known, but popular, falls into one of the following categories:
- We don’t want to pay attention to our own inner lives.
- We believe celebrity is far more interesting, better, happier, successful, beautiful, etc…than ourselves.
- Talking about, gossiping or discussing celebrity may make us feel superior, especially when they screw up.
- It’s a point of connection with others, without the ability to appear knowledgeable on the topic, we may not have anything to contribute to a conversation or we’re not part of the group.
It’s not to say that watching an award show means you’re ignoring your inner demons or your problems, no, on the contrary, the occasional escape from reality is a welcome respite. That’s what movies are for, right?
Watching an awards show doesn’t automatically mean you’re waiting to find failed moments or actresses’ dresses to criticize. Although, for those that do and say it’s fun….why’s it fun?
The categories I mention, don’t just apply to celebrity, it applies to anything outside of ourselves, which we give power to, obsess about or in which, “we get lost in” that has no real value or positive impact on our own lives.
Entertainment is meant to take us away from the “present,” taking our minds to another place.
Inherently, there’s nothing wrong with it. Court jester anyone?
1) We don’t want to pay attention to our own inner lives.
When we’re continuously running from our emotional pain or anxiety, instead of dealing with ourselves, it digs us deeper into our hole. A hole we try to fill outside by ignoring the inside. Celebrity fascination can give us a small sense of fulfillment as we watch their trials, tribulations and successes from afar, yet feel tied into it, as though we have a stake in it somehow.
2) We believe celebrity is far more interesting, better, happier, successful, beautiful, etc…than us.
Some people think they’re boring, failures , etc…and that others are far more savvy. We give the power to the celebrity, the CEO, the politician…basically anyone who seems to have a leg up on how to live this life right (none of us were given an instruction manual; remember, appearances are deceiving), so we look to them to be our instruction manual.
Ain’t nobody a better guide on how to live than your very own GUT. Your intuition…”YOU” have all the answers for you.
3)Talking about, gossiping or discussing celebrity may make us feel superior, especially when they screw up.
You know misery loves company, right? We love to see the bright and shiny fall, to become human, one of us. We look for things to bring them down to our level, never realizing there is NO level.
When we feel insecure, we may put others down, bringing them to a place where we can deal.
We’re human beings. We’re all fucked up, period. Embrace your own “fu–ed-up” stuff and you’ll stop wondering, worrying, thinking or gossiping about people you know or don’t know…they’ll just be regular peeps, like you.
4) It’s a point of connection with others, without the ability to appear knowledgeable on the topic, we may not have anything to contribute to a conversation or we’re not part of the group.
I’m a natural pain in the ass, always questioning and skipping to the strings of my own guitar…so, I find other ways to connect to people. Deeper, caring ways and funny, lighthearted ways too. Not being in the know, is okay. Being out of the loop is cool. And not giving a shit about what isn’t real, is mighty fine too.