Recipe for a Good Relationship



One of my clients was reading my blog. She felt a recipe for all natural sunscreen would fit nicely in here. I believe it does, because we can all use a tip from time to time that could be beneficial to our health.

It got me thinking…what would be a good recipe for a solid relationship?

I think we can come up with many of the ingredients for what creates a happy twosome, items such as:

  • Love
  • Communication
  • Compassion
  • Kindness
  • Friendship
  • Forgiveness
  • Self-love
  • Acceptance
  • Allowing
  • Attraction
  • Trust

But….how much of each do we need for a Rockin’ Relationship? All parts are necessary at all times, yet in equal amounts at different times. Meaning, whatever is going on for one or both partners there may need to be more of those characteristics than at other times in the relationship.

How would that work?

Here’s a recipe for adding the ingredients:

When we forget why we’re in a relationship with our mate and what the goal is: POUR IN LOVE.

When we start having voices in our head and deciding we know the score with our partner: SPRINKLE THOROUGHLY WITH COMMUNICATION.

When we forget our mate is human and disappoints us: SPOON IN COMPASSION.

When we’re mad or frustrated with life or our partner: BLEND IN KINDNESS.

When we want to share our deepest desires or insecurities: ADD FRIENDSHIP.

When we’ve fought with our partner or are kicking ourselves for what we’ve done: STIR IN FORGIVENESS.

When we’re not feeling the love: KNEAD IN SELF-LOVE.

When we’re not comfortable with the inconsistencies in our mate, ourselves and the relationship: A DASH OF ACCEPTANCE.

When reinvention happens at any time for either partner: SIFT TOGETHER WITH ALLOWING.

No matter how long it’s been, remembering what brought us together in the first place and allowing those feelings to re-emerge: A PINCH OF ATTRACTION. 

When we can’t let go of what our mate does or doesn’t do, to know we are still okay no matter what. To own our insecurities, share them but not burden our partner with them is to place within ourselves and the relationship: A QUART OF TRUST!

There may be some variations on the amounts of each ingredient, but if all exist in a relationship then there is a recipe for success.

Now….the second recipe is for our bodies:

Here is her recipe for Homemade Non-Toxic Sunscreen Lotion Bars



Combine the shea butter, coconut oil and beeswax in a glass bowl placed over a hot pot of water or use a double boiler. Heat on low until the ingredients are melted and full incorporated. Remove from heat and stir in the zinc oxide, the essential oil, and the vitamin E oil. Pour into silicon molds and place in the fridge to cool for about 30 minutes. Pop out and store in tins or an airtight container. Store at room temperature.


  • These will melt in the hot sun. I plan to cut off a small piece to take with me to the pool or the beach and carry it in an airtight container. Once back indoors it will solidify again.
  • I have received questions about how to apply. You simply rub all over your body while holding in your hand. The texture is firm but emollient and it will feel like a lotion – not soap. You can rub it in further with your hands.







3 thoughts on “Recipe for a Good Relationship

  1. Clever way of sending this message….I agree, each ingredient needs to be measured and added at the right time to maintain a healthy relationship. Most people understand this in theory but when it’s time to add, stir, and bake; the recipe doesn’t seem to taste as good as they would have imaged. Most of the problems that occur stem from the preparation; before the commitment occurred. They weren’t completely honest, left this out, add to much of this, and allowed lumps to fester that could have been beat out; they weren’t themselves and the outcome becomes try to make it work….

    1. Thank you so much for commenting. It was fun to write this piece. And you’re right, preparation is so important, isn’t it? And when you have created a recipe that is missing ingredients or wasn’t prepped properly, it starts off with that deficit…trying to make a not so great recipe work!

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