Somewhere in time….a long, long time ago.
I mistakenly got on the path to perfection. Don’t know if it was a right turn or a left turn. I didn’t realize it back then, I just assumed it was the way to love and acceptance.
It was the way to finding out “perfection” had nothing to do with love and acceptance. Being “perfect,” or I should say trying to be in the eyes of others, may win you a trophy and some money, but not much else in the form of emotional fulfillment.
When I realized that keeping the floorboards clean with a toothbrush, making sure I never made a mistake (and when I did–beating myself up), and other assorted torture-inducing activities; I stopped.
Clean floorboards? Okay, once in awhile, I’m not big on dust.
Mistakes? Make them. All the time. the more mistakes you make, the more you are guaranteed you are ALIVE and doing something with yourself!
To be loved and accepted, be yourself. All the time. Be you, in each and every way that shows your essence. Love yourself as flawed as you are and guaranteed, someone(s) else will too.
Ensuring imperfection is easy, and if you need a little help coming up with ways to let it all hang out, no worries. Here are other things that you can do to make you lovably imperfect:
- Dripping or dropping a bit of your lunch down the front of you.
- Laughing wholeheartedly at nothing.
- Laughing wholeheartedly, because you’re happy or thought of something funny.
- Admitting to each and every insecurity you have–it’s fun! And it lets everyone else chime in with their “stuff.”
- Tripping over the non-existent bump on the sidewalk
- Wearing your shirt inside out
- Wearing two different shoes (yes, I have done this, actually I’ve done all of these)
- Saying something completely inappropriate, but it is what everyone in the room is dying to say
- Rolling out of bed, not brushing your hair and meeting your friends for breakfast (no hair needs to be in place, though you may want to brush your teeth–for their sake)
- Discuss bodily functions, we all have em’ and sometimes they’re accidentally acted upon(or purposely) in front of others.
- Talk about who you are, not what you do with strangers…let them get to know you!
- Share music you listen to or tv you watch, that you are somewhat embarrassed to share.
- HAVE FUN!!!
- Accept others as they are.
Those were just a few ideas, but really, let down your hair and relax. Perfection is nonexistent and life gets so much easier when you remove the idea that you have to “appear” a certain way.Confidence comes from being imperfect; loving yourself in your own skin. Perfection will always create the grounds for insecurities, because it is a n impossible and subjective ideal.
No one cares if you are perfect, but they’ll totally love you to bits the more imperfect you are….especially when you own it!!